Hurt people hurt people: Being estranged from family members

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Estranged from family? A therapist wants you to remember these three things.

Some people will hate me for saying this but yeah, there were many family members I have felt estranged from - I'm not gonna lie.  I won't say who they are and I am sure they may have been hurt by me also (or maybe they have been hurt by others too, who knows).

I remember when a particular president got elected back in 2016 and I expressed a few opinions that aligned with that presidents' views.  This kind of landed me in hot water, because even if I didn't 100% agree with what he said, and consequently, I copped a whole heap of insults from other people, even people who I knew from way back who were very dear to me (and also loved me dearly in return).

I loved these people dearly and didn't want to hurt them myself, but at the same time, they were still getting hurt despite me trying to explain that it wasn't them I was purposely hurting.  But trying to justify my own reactions to everyone else's (and their posts on Facebook and stuff) while protecting myself from them 'low key' insulting me was a hard task.  And trying not to cause offence was taking a toll on my own health - majorly.

As it got considerably worse, I had to cut off old friends that I had just reunited with and even family members (like cousins) that had disappeared off the radar, and had came back into my life in 2014, only to be 'alienated by' again in 2016.  This particular cousin was like the older teenage brother I never had, I shared many interests with him and I had 'lost' him simply for having different (and much more conservative) political views.

At the same time, he was having health issues also and was struggling to stay alive.  However, I wasn't going to sit around and be lectured to about tolerance (particularly racial tolerance) when he was expressing a lot of anti-American and anti-Western views, and even being pro-Islamic or anti-Semitic at times (just to prove he was 'sticking up for the Under Dog).  That's when I had to unfollow him on social media (though still trying to maintain contact with him through other ways).  I had my own fish to fry and I was very disturbed hearing that.

So, yeah, it's very alienating, especially when you find out that he again fell off the radar, and it had other family members worrying.

It turned out he passed away, and for that, I ask myself, 'Am I the arsehole for not wanting to talk to him?'  Such a bitter pill to swallow.

I can't get him back.

However, I still have other family members and I have to walk the line between not being estranged from them and protecting my own self-worth.

Maybe it's best to read the article so you can get some insight as to why this happens and think about how you can come to terms with it.

Also, check out this entry I wrote about a Red Indian guy (I used to know online) who is also anti-White, anti-Semitic, anti-Israel/pro-Palestinian and  how his relationship with a part-Asian and part-Red Indian woman worked out.  It ended poorly.  

But unfortunately, he only had himself to blame for rejecting and ridiculing White people, and now this happens.  I can't sympathize anymore, I really can't!!!

Story by Aidan Milan