Wednesday Weekly Whinge: I'm 'judging someone' apparently

Part of the reason why I have not been on Facebook is that trolling is on the increase; Even on Messenger.

I made this post on Facebook/Messenger stories and got a very strange response from someone who happened to read it.

This was because I was feeling a bit like a puppet, being controlled by something that I feel I should be trying to control.  

This is the response I got from this person.

How's it working for her?  Maybe she felt the same way I did?  But I wasn't trying to be dismissive or saying it wasn't valid.  It was just a bit odd that someone who thinks that what works for me also works for them?

I certainly didn't get the gist of what she was trying to say?  And I was never messaged by them on Messenger or maybe I was but don't quite remember.

But then the conversation took a turn for the worse.

The person messaging me accused me of judging them.  Honestly, I don't know them personally and I was trying to explain to them that because I don't know them (or maybe I did but just forgotten ever having been in contact with them before).  

Either way, it felt a bit premature and here was my response to them.

Immediately, they blocked me, so I thought, 'Well, fine!!!!  You pretend to be my friend and then you turn around and say crap like that'

Yeah, so things got quite nasty after that.  They would be lucky to get another response out of me.  

If they really knew me, then I would also remember them quite well.  Most of the friends I had on Facebook are often ones I had from school or I had known previously online.  Or if I don't know them previously, then they're often friends of friends.

I think the 2nd scenario is most likely in this case - especially when it turns out they're not the person I thought I knew.*

Or maybe their own account was hacked and that's not the real actual person that is responding to me.

* The person I thought I knew in this case is someone who has on their profile that they've been to university** and is working for a particular government department that deals with people who have disabilities.  Oh, the irony!!!! ***

** A well educated person wouldn't feel the need to troll like that!!!  Or at least be the more mature person and be prepared to listen to me and what I have to say.

*** It's ironic because the comments felt pretty 'ableist' and once they got the explanation they were after, they turned around and 'kicked me when I was down' i.e. said I was the one *judging* them.  

Isn't that what people who are neurotypical (i.e. not autistic or on the spectrum, or has ADHD or Tourette's or anything like that) do to those who are neurodiverse (that is, they have any condition like Autism or Aspergers or ADHD or Tourette's - all these disorders interfere with cognitive functions or neurological functions)?  That is, they pretend to be our friends and then say things that hurt our feelings?  Not all of them, but we 'neurodiverse' types are a bit more vulnerable to being manipulated by others than neurotypical people.

Honestly, the real reason I made this post was that I have one issue after another and it can happen whether I am neurotypical or neurodiverse.  However, if I was neurotypical, it would be alot easier to regain some control over what's going on in my life.  Back pain, sciatica and issues like that can be overcome (or at least managed).  

However, I didn't choose to be on the 'spectrum' and I would like to overcome that a bit more easily.  Hence, feel more like a real person and not be 'controlled' or defined by it, like I was someone's 'puppet'.  

If anyone has read Pinocchio, the marionette puppet who wants to be 'a real boy' (i.e. a human being), that's how I am feeling right now (like a puppet).  I wish I could be more like a normal human being (i.e. neurotypical) and not be so easily misled or manipulated.

Cheers,

Night Owl