The Biggest Victim

Does anyone see where he is coming from?

Most people I know have been bullied or victimised to some extent or another, including myself.  In fact, so much so, that I thought I was the most 'hard-done-by' person in Australia (if not in the world).  It is very easy to feel sorry for oneself.

But now, my own 'victim card' is expiring and it is becoming increasingly hard to play that card.  Even more so because other people are quickly catching up.

They are now *bigger* 'victims' than myself.

For instance, there is one classmate in high school that I used to know (in fact, I used to know her in sixth grade).  There was no *bigger victim* than herself and it got to the point where she was not only a 'victim' but also a bully.

What did she do, may you ask?

She was a big know-it-all, for starters.  She knew everything and more!!!!  It pissed off all her classmates, who got jack of her.

She was disruptive in class - I don't know if she had ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), but if she really had that behavioural problem, it certainly showed.  She did this by talking out of turn, during class, and showing a variety of bizarre behaviours (I won't go into what they were exactly, but it would be funny if it wasn't so disturbing).

However, it was more 'sad' than funny, because while it was easy to laugh at her, you were also forced to take her seriously.

You weren't allowed to have an opinion that differed from hers, because she would shout you down before you have a chance to.

She was a hypochondriac who apparently had all manner of ailments to explain her behaviour problems.

But what disturbed me the most of all was that she used to *badmouth* everyone, even her own family: her parents did _____ because she did _______, so therefore they must be ________.  Her sister did this to her.  Of course, it is easy to feel sorry her, because we all had that parent, relative or sibling we didn't like, so we can 'reasonably' say, 'There there, I know how you feel' etc etc.

But it didn't stop there: Next it was the horrible school principal in primary school, another classmate, and even I was subject to her gossip and rumours, which people believed at first.

That was the *biggest* gripe I had with her.

This had resulted in me being ostracised, until they started to wake up to her behaviour and then realised I wasn't not completely the 'monster' she tried to portray me as.  Okay, I did have my faults and I admit I wasn't nice to her 100% of the time, but what happened between me and her was between me and her - it had nothing to do with the classmates that weren't there at the time.

Fast forward from 1980 to 1985: she tried the same tactics at another school we both moved to, but this time, the other students in my year were *smart* enough not to fall for it.  And the *smarter* they were, the *crazier* she became.  I was glad about that (that I was not the only one to feel that way), but it only made it 'hurt' just a little bit less.

But at the end of 1985, she ended up leaving that school.  I think I may have only seen her a few times after that.

Then a few years' ago, she added me to a (very) well-known social media network.  And, once again, she spun her stories....

But now, I am finding it hard to take: on one hand, she had me thinking that she had gotten her life together; but on the other, she was still being 'the victim' once again.

How do I know this?

I made a very controversial post, which had obviously annoyed a few people, so maybe I have to cop it sweet.  Then she made some response about the latest 'abusive' situation she is (allegedly) in.

I then posted that if it is going to be that much of a bother, I won't post things like that anymore.  No response from her after that....

So maybe I made her go away and think.

But I am not sure it stopped there: I posted a video of a snake and she told me it reminded her of ______ when ______ was going to sleep.

I mean, who's going to be 'next'?  Her husband?  Her children?  Her grandchildren?

I know it is not my problem personally, but yes, no one has bigger problem than her - it is just history repeating itself: same s**t, different people.

Same old, same old.

So, right now, she is the 'biggest victim' that I can think of.  There are others but when this video by Gerard Pauschmann came out, it reminded me of her and others like her.  And right now, she is way out in front; and while being a 'victim', she can also be a *bully* while simultaneously trying to elicit sympathy from others.

Nice try, but it is not working on me as much as before!!!

(no) cheers,

Night Owl 🦉